Happy Parents Happy Kids, About Routine Life

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Be Happy with Children:

Parents who are happy ultimately teach their kids how to be happy. Finding a secure mental and physical balance that includes much-needed mom-and-dad time may help parents find the energy to share the joys of life with their children.

 Making your kids the center of your life may seem child-friendly, but it can create long-term unhappiness for everyone in the family. Many couples believe their marriage is strong because they rarely argue.But the real marriage killer is when we distance ourselves from our spouse to keep the peace. We throw ourselves into parenting or work to avoid dealing with issues that cause conflict. And if you and your spouse become distant, it places pressure on your kids to fulfill your emotional needs. when you put your marriage on the back burner, your kids can sense the lack of closeness between you. “Kids whose parents’ relationship has cooled are more likely to have behavioral or academic problems than kids of happy couples,who has studied families for decades with his wife. Think of your relationship as the emotional environment in which your kids live. Just as you want them to breathe clean air and drink pure water, you want them to grow up in a loving atmosphere. Even if you can’t see yourself going out on a date for yourselves, do it for your kids.

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Prioritizing tasks and creating a sense of community within the family will also help ease the pressures of ‘superhero’ parenting. suggests creating family team to-do lists to maintain household chores and responsibilities. “This will not only help set up the family as a team,” she said, but helps children feel included and successful when items are accomplished.

It’s also important to let go of the vision of perfection. “Let go of little things like cleaning and laundry — nap if you need to,It is crucial for parents to force themselves to get the same care their children get because they are often overlooked.

Making time for your relationship with your partner should be at the top of the priority list, too, Siebold said. “Parents always have to have date nights and time with their friends doing the things they used to do before the children. Otherwise, you begin to feel like less than a human, and resentments will build toward the children, your spouse and life in general.

 

How to Treat Children?

  • Are you not impressed how much and how strongly the Scripture teaches about love for children? The relationship between God and the redeemed is pictured as a father-child relationship. God always has admonished care for widows and children, and forbade that they ever be oppressed.  There are strong words underscoring parental responsibility in rearing children in both the Old and New Testaments. God has a special concern for children.
  • Children should be treated as children, not simply small adults. We know that, but we do not always show that we know that. Children, by reason of immaturity, lack knowledge, wisdom and experience. They have limited abilities, skills and vocabularies because they are in the early stages of learning. Some seem to expect children to act like adults. Some adults keep acting like children, but it is unfair and unreal to expect children to behave in a mature fashion even as they are being taught to do so.
  • We must treat them with tender compassion.Children are to be considered as gifts from God. Consider the attitude of Samson’s parents toward the child that would born unto them
  • Children can be the source of one of life’s greatest joys. There are several matters involved in producing this joy. Much depends on how we treat our children and how children treat parents.
  •  We should have respect for our children. They have feelings, too. Some parents scream at their children, yelling, snatching. jerking, physically slapping and knocking at the slightest provocation. Who has not seen little fellows crushed at heart because of the insensitive way some parent treated them? Often this is seen at the ball fields, the grocery stores, etc. We should never abuse them verbally or physically. That’s wrong!
  • We must recognize that each child is a unique person and nobody can fill or take his or her place. It is dangerous to make too much comparison between children because they vary in talents and dispositions. Some are quicker than others to learn. They possess different talents. But each is distinctive and worthy. One mother was trying to find out why one child turned out well but another did not. That may have been the major cause. They were not alike and should be considered individually.
  • Even though they are different we cannot be partial. Some may be easier to rear than others because dispositions differ.  You cannot treat a teenager like a pre-schooler, or vice versa. Jacob’s mistake regarding his sons was partiality toward Joseph and it caused hatred from Joseph’s brothers. We must always seek what is best for each child.
  • Parents can make their children unnecessarily angry. Sometimes we may simply be trying to show them who is boss and we become overbearing. Children who feel crushed and overpowered by arbitrary power learn rebellion and resentment. Provoking the worst from our children is an abuse, not use, of our authority. Seeking their highest good is to show true love. You will not be the perfect parent nor have perfect children, but love covers many mistakes.You do not neglect nor mistreat those you love.
  • If they make some mistake don’t behave them like elders; forgive them and teach them about the harmful aspect of their mistake. Don’t give orders like do it or don’t it, try to teach them logically. If they understand the logic they will abide heartedly without any force or under any fear.
  • Teach your children living with community and encourage them to enhance friendship circle. Children without friends remain reluctant and shy in daily life. Give respect to your children never insult them in front of their friends.
    Physical punishment is not better treatment for their mistake. If they commit mistake try to counsel them and convince them logically in order to avoid its recurrence.
  • If they make some mistake don’t behave them like elders; forgive them and teach them about the harmful aspect of their mistake. Don’t give orders like do it or don’t it, try to teach them logically. If they understand the logic they will abide heartedly without any force or under any fear.